5 Things That Change When You’re A New Mommy.

I’ve been pondering about drafting this post from the past few days. I mean, I could be all knavish and go on to say, “Oh! Jolly Jelly Beans. Motherhood is the most satisfying thing ever. I’ve just borne a best friend for life. ” 

But, no, I wouldn’t indulge in such pettifoggery and mislead you from the things that will change. Well, Forever!! 

Here are my 5 most favourite/ unfavourable things: 

1. Sleep, will be an ex who you remember with a sad smile: 

You really shouldn’t have treated it, with so much ingratitude. How, you used to decide, when you’d wanna sleep or how you would just hit the pillow & call it a day. Remember, those hibernating naps, where you would sleep for 12-13 hours straight? Good ole days😢😢 Now, your baby decides when you sleep or rather, when he wants to sleep. If you thought, you were a free spirit not bound by rules. Then, you oughta see your baby’s feeding whims. He loves surprising Mommy with 4 a.m. cries. Darling! Welcome to the real “Hunger Games “

  

2. You will never be blessed with peaceful, romantic & carefree dates : 

D’oh!! Who said you would ever have a romantic & a carefree date? Let’s say, you filch a few hours from your baby time & hire a babysitter or just plop your baby at the Grandma’s toasty place. You & your partner, have reservations at the restaurant of your dreams. You order your courses & just when you start feeling the vibe. The phone rings!! “Honey! The baby misses you.” & you hear that wail, like a death knell 😢😢 If, it isn’t during the meal, then it surely will be at the time, you guys decide to have a long, breezy drive. 

And, if your baby comes along with you.. Then, oh well!! It isn’t a date, is it? Muhahhhahaha 😈😈😒😒

  

3. Your fancy Gucci, Dior, & MK purses are replaced by Petunia,  Storksak & BabyCargo diaper bags: 

Gosh! Even those names make me cringe. If, having a baby & his spittle on your shoulder wasn’t enough, now, you need to fashion revamp yourself. Big, floral/block, multi zippered bags filled with diapers, bottom butters, binkys, feed,etc.. is the way of life. Girl!! Your bag, is your identity. It doubles up as, a huge invisible placard that says, ” I’m a new mommy. Don’t mess with me. I’m the human version of Godzilla. I’m grumpy, irritated & exhausted. I need a Gucci more than ever now, but all I get is a diaper bag.” 

  

I feel you girl. Just another 5 years & then you can get your Gucci. Amen! 

4. Going to the Bathroom & having a 2 hour luxury soak with rose petals, bath bombs.. Stop!! :

Well, that’s a thingamaflip of history. It’s been 3 years since I had one. Your child, will miraculously need you the most, when you need some luxury time. When you decide, to pamper yourself with some much needed soak, your baby doesn’t think you deserve that. 10 minute showers are the trend these days. Once your baby is a toddler, rest assured that he’s gonna follow you & ask you, “What you doing inside?” atleast a 100 times in 10 minutes. 

  

5. Your shopping hauls will be filled with the cute A/W collection booties, diapers, toys and all that :

Remember, the last time you shopped selfishly just for yourself? Not anymore. It’s shopping haul for the baby too! More shopping goals & more financial oopsies now! 

“YOU spent $100 on stupid designer shoes for the baby, which he clearly won’t wear for more than 6 months?”, shouts the husband. 

Well, mommy! You’re learning. You’ll get the hang of it. Slowly, you’ll make wise decisions like spending $100 on toys? He won’t outgrow that in 6 months, will he?

Nope!! He’ll get over it, within a span of a week 😱

Now, I have a bonus one for you, Mommy! 

6. Your Playlist & Phones will be filled with “Wheels on the bus” kinda songs & “Baby Hazel” games: 

Yes! You heard me right! Your playlist will have annoying voices, blaring about “little boy blue, Jack Horner & London Bridge” on the damn loop. Then, your phones will start using those free MB’s to fill it with “Counting, Colouring & ABC” apps. This starts with a necessity to keep your toddler shut at the doctors, then you decide to keep him shut at the restaurant, mall, salon & every other place you take him along. 

  

Well, we all are ninjas on alert. We do need our inventories to be well stocked. 

Things will eventually get better and life won’t get back to normal pre baby days, but you’ll learn the art of making this a normalcy. Super proud of all the mommies. 

Welcome to motherhood mommy!! Have a great time here. 

P.S: All images have been sourced from http://www.google.com & are the sole right of the owner. These are not mine to credit. They have been used only for reference purposes. 

WHAT DOES YOUR NEWBORN WANT??

Just when you thought that your baby has joined the family and well, life is all roses no thorns are you struck down by naked reality of the responsibility that a baby comes with. Really??? I mean weren’t all those 9 months of throwing up, exhaustion,headaches,out of proportion body enough of a sacrifice for the baby? Apparently NOOOO! That was just the yummy part.

Having a baby is the most beautiful experience,well,lets just not consider those banana spilts and angel cakes and hershey’s kisses and.. ahemm ahemmm… Oh dear me! excuse my “thought feeds” in middle of my posts. They just keep happening. So, lets get back to my point, all that im saying is “Congratulations!You have just won yourself an unlimited supply of baby drool, baby poop,spit ups and baby tantrums and we have a special surprise for you a year’s supply of sleep deprivation too.!!” At the risk of sounding extremely negative, newborns are beautiful but there are a kazillion things you have to remember about them when they are having their transitions. A few are:

  • Make sure you give your baby his milk at a 3-4 hour interval.
  • Make sure you burp him up after his feed preferably within 5-10 minutes. I’ve noticed that my baby would have a huge spit up after his feed if i wouldn’t let him burp at that 5-10 minute break.
  • Burping the baby has to be done with gentle strokes on his back when he’s lying on your shoulder.
  • Decide if you prefer a crib or co-sleeping.
  • If you opt for a crib, make sure that the baby upholstery is washed and cleaned atleast once a week,see that it has no sharp ends,invest in good HYPOALLERGENIC beddings.
  • Try to invest in organic hypoallergenic beddings,it’s more breathable and comfortable for your baby.
  • If you opt for co-sleeping,please make sure you are not overpowering the baby’s space. If you are a deep sleeper and a” stretch my guts off kinda mommy” then co-sleeping is out of bounds for you.
  • Invest in organic cotton clothes for the newbie.
  • Please please do not overdress your newborn. I understand the concern of new mothers who find their newbies so fragile that they instinctively have a maternal shield that in some weird way coaxes them into overdressing the baby.Please remember that your baby just needs 1 layer more than your dressing.If you are on 1 blanket,then the baby requires 2 not 5. Overdressing is a dangerous and can even cause death.
  • SIDS(Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) is the risk that arises due to overdressing that causes suffocation or asphyxiation.
  • Do not buy your baby clothes for the upcoming winter or summer. Clothes remain the same but your baby outgrows them.You have absolutely no idea of how fast they grow.What seemed perfect last month can end up pinching his bottom this month.
  • If you plan to breastfeed,then do remember to buy nursing pads and a good quality breast pump. Breast pumps are of 2 types manual and electric. If you are a working woman an electric pump would go a long way for you. So choose carefully.
  • If you plan to bottle feed your baby please ask help from your health adviser or your paediatrician regarding the baby formula.Every baby is different something that suits your neighbour’s baby might not be right for yours.If your baby is a preemie you will be asked to use a formula that allows your baby to catch up with other babies.
  • Learn and master the art of bottle sterilization.Remember your bottles are good only upto 24 hours after which they lose their sterility.
  • Sterilize by boiling or steam sterilization. There are tons of great sterilizers out there that have different catchy uses,but it all comes down to one thing boiling or steam you need to use it within 24 hours.
  • Use  BPA free bottles,toys and BPA free cleaning brushes.It’s Bisphenol-A,its a cause of worry because research shows that BPA may seep through food and beverages and cause a variety of problems for the newborn ranging from heart problems to brain developmental problems.
  • Do not use talcs on the baby’s skin for atleast a month.From my experience it really does create a havoc,its better to leave the baby in his natural, unaltered form for a month.Same applies for baby colognes.
  • Invest in good brands of baby soaps,body foams,bathrobes,baby mittens,nappy creams,bottom butters,body oils,body lotions and if your baby is blessed with good hair then a shampoo.Believe me that is all that they need in their first months.Not much of a list over there.
  • Make sure all the baby toiletries are “PARABENS FREE”.
  • A bathing seat which has anti-slip holds must be kept in mind.
  • Anti-slip bath mats for you so that you don’t happen to land yourself in trouble with the baby in your arms.
  • Invest in a good sunscreen for the baby. It’s an absolute must have.
  • Invest in the best diapers that you can afford in the baby’s first few months.You will thank me for it later. Make sure the diapers are made out of breathable fabric.Brands like pampers,mamy poko pants,huggies etc. are just a delicious dream for the baby.
  • If you are going to go eco-friendly and opt for fabric diapers then you really have nothing much to worry about except the laundry ofcourse. Let me make that immediate laundry.
  • No food or water for the baby for his first 6 months,irrespective of what your grandmother says. Proven by the AAP (American Academy of Paediatrics). Here is an excerpt from “www.about.com” The American Academy of Pediatrics actually states that “until your baby starts eating solid foods, he’ll get all the water he needs from breastmilk or formula.”
  • Lastly,remember that no baby grows more happily than the one whose caretaker is happy.So,remember to do yourself a favour and be happy throughout.Shower your baby with hugs and kisses.There’s hardly anyone more receptive than them to love.

Now with all that little bit of information you are ready to go ahead and take your first baby steps in caring for your baby.Enjoy your experience with your little one.Your baby may demand for something more or maybe not as much as you thought so.The angel that you possess is just yours,just that exclusive piece that nobody else has,so its only fair that it comes with a high price tag and maintainence. Keep enjoying your Mommyhood.. cheers!!

Am I Happy? And Another 9 Silly Questions Asked By Mommies.

Hello to all mommies and mommies and mommies and…oh! i see that rare species in the count of extinction here…You know what right?…The dads! Looking at the ample amount of mommies on board i had no other choice but to address the mommies thrice.Hope the mommies and the dads are doing well here.


This post is addressed to all those silly questions that pop up in your head regarding the cutie pies that we possess. Imagine the truckloads of responsibility that a dad possess’s,lets multiply that into a 100.Well,what do we have here….

Dear dad’s work schedules+work tension+looking after family tension* 100 = Mommy’s daily dose of responsibility(with no holidays-sick leaves-or watching favorite episode of desperate housewives).OH!!!that’s long out of the program schedule.SEE, Mommies no longer know what’s going on tv soap operas.

With such a huge criteria to tackle on a everyday basis and “MOMMMMMMMY!! SHE TOOK MY CAR” cries,deafening you up everyday,it’s only normal that a mommy has quite alot of silly questions for herself.Im pretty sure these questions come barging in your head without an invitation,and leave you guilty for thinking about it.Trust me, you are perfectly normal.There’s nothing wrong with you or your love for your family,but here are a few answers. 

Just yesterday, I went through a lot of guilt for overlooking my son’s inquisitiveness… **paawwhh** after a big bawling episode, I decided to repost this article as a reminder for me 😁❤️

1)AM I A GOOD PARENT?

Well,absolutely yes.If you found yourself asking this question,then it does mean that you care.It means that you want to excel in your parenting skills,It means that YOU my dear are trying hard enough to be a good parent.

2) AM I A FAILURE?

Just because your child pulled the iron almost on his hand,doesn’t qualify you in the “WORST PARENT”list. Chill,you are as much as a learner as your child.Your child has been let loose in this amazingly intriguing environment,what do you expect?Would he/she not experiment?Mistakes are such an integral part of your child’s development both mentally and physically.Surprisingly the same applies to you.

3)I’M GOING BACK TO WORK.AM I COMPROMISING WITH MY CHILD’S WELL BEING?

Going back to work,well this question really needs a little depth of understanding.As a mum,without a doubt your first priority is your child…hold on!! let me finish..it’s not over yet! But so is your happiness,your personal space and dreams.It is truely not selfish to think about you.Infact it’s really healthy.If you have sorted out all the intricacies like say” who will be looking after your child in your absence?” “what time will you be getting back home?””Can you handle work and home stress together?””How necessary is it for you to work?”YOU know better,whether you are working for a better financial position or for your dreams and passion,YOU have all the rights to go ahead and live it up.Like i always say a happy mom is a better mom.

4)I DON’T LOOK LIKE MY OLD SELF.IM FAT AND UGLY.HELP?😢😒

Except for a few moms who i sternly believe have the access to the eternal fountain of youth,it’s highly unlikely that you are going to fit in your pre university jeans again.Either you sweat it out day and night and night and day to fit in those jeans,or even better accept the fact that you are beautiful,you are a mum,you are that woman who had the privilege to be able to birth a beautiful baby,you have changed but for the best. I don’t mean to advocate unhealthy lifestyles,nor do recommend sedentary ideologies.All im trying to say is life is soooooo much more than the stress of not accepting yourself the way you are.Baby fat melts by its own schedule,rather than cribbing over the unlikely fact,accept yourself,experiment with new styles of dressing.Wear flowy dresses,dress according to your shape and stay away from ill fitting clothes no matter how trendy they are.My two cents on that.

5)I FEEL I DON’T UNDERSTAND MY CHILD WELL ENOUGH?

Guess,it’s that sub conscious mind doing the tricks.We thought the same. Din’t we? We thought that our parents never understood us,but in reality they knew us in and out.They just couldn’t figure out if what they thought was the THING confusing us. The absolute solution to this is,let your child communicate either by his “gaaa gaaa eeh’s “or by”Mum it’s my friend,he’s fared better than me.”It doesn’t matter if its a newborn or a teenager,communication breaks those little invisible barriers that start creating once you start distancing yourself.You as a parent have all the answers,just get your child to ask those crucial questions.

6)EVERYONE TOLD ME MOTHERHOOD WAS FUN.IT’S NOT!AM I CRAZY TO THINK THIS?

No, you’re not.People have by far exaggerated motherhood to the extremes.Telling you all stories of how lovely it feels to be a mother,how they have never been upset since the baby,how everything in their lives is back to normal,and sometimes…how eager they are to have another one. Gear up love..I can guarantee you that all that is nothing but their wishful thinking of not accepting reality,or ahem ahem..your sweet acquaintance is lying straight to your sweet gullible and vulnerable face.ALAS!! You do make it that evident.Don’t you? Lets think of motherhood like this..”You have your dream job…sounds good??? yes?? good..listen..You have your dream job,you having been waiting for this or have unexpectedly landed yourself in it.OK??well, Now you start working on it..preparing projects,hitting deadlines etc.. Tiring you eh??No matter how irritated you are with the job miniscularities,it still is something that you wanted.It’s not easy but hey..it’s something you can flaunt of.. Yeah?? Motherhood is just this..You have landed yourself in it,it’s beautiful,not easy,everyday you are faced with new tasks,deadlines etc.Things will change,your life is not going to be the same.Changes are for the good.A life without change is lets face it..DRY!! and BORING!! You will never be faced with a bigger challenge,and you better conquer it.

7)AM I THE REINCARNATION OF MY MOTHER?

You may find yourself doing and getting irritated at the exact same things that your mum used to at.Don’t be surprised.God has filled mothers with a completely unique system.All of us respond to it the same way.Remember your mum used to say”That dress looks horrible!You need to wear this!”and she used to pick up a dress that you despised and labelled old fashioned or outdated?.Do you find yourself doing the same? Im sure you would do so.There’s no harm being the reincarnation of the lady who bought up such a fine lady as yourself.The way you realise that now,so will your kids.Albeit if there are some scary and abusive bits of your childhood that you find yourself inflicting on your kids,then you really must seek professional help.You should understand the degree of pain and mental imbalance that this troubled childhood has caused and prevent yourself from repeating the same mistake.Such issues need to be addressed at the earliest.

7)MY PRIVACY IS LOST. 

Hmmmm…you did know this would happen..You did read all the terms and conditions on the dream job contract Edit😞 Privacy is such a luxury that you can’t even dream of owning for quite sometime,but surely you can rent it out for time being.Remember how fond your mother is of her grandchildren?or how fond your mother in law is of them?.Go ahead grab that opportunity.Go rent some private time,Just you and your love. Leave the kids in good care and rekindle that love oncce again.A day or two of a private vacay with your hubby can do wonders for everyone.

8)I DON’T SPEND TIME ON ME!

Well,shame on you. You should absolutely be not neglecting yourself.Head to the nearest spa and pamper yourself to a day of decadence and sheer indulgence.Feel like a queen,because you no longer are a princess as you have your own lil ones.. remember.??? Or catch up with the gossip that you have been missing up with your girlfriends.Just about anything that makes you happy as an individual.The more you neglect yourself,the more irritated and stressed you are going to feel.My mantra as always” A HAPPY MOM IS A BETTER MOM!”

9)EVERYONE HAS AN OPINION ON HOW I SHOULD RAISE MY KIDS. IM CONFUSED!

 Mommy,though you are a novice compared to a mum who has 30-50 years of experience raising children,You know better.Motherhood is a learning process,and very soon you will find that not everytime does”one size fit all”.People do pass on their opinions,like how they would condemn a mother who choses to not breastfeed or how a working mom is stereotyped for not being there for her children.Opinions do matter,but make sure that they do not affect your own.Any opinion passed on to you must go through your filtering process.Make sure it suits you and your lifestyle.Make sure it is for the kids best interest and make sure You are happy fulfilling it.Let not people make you feel guilty for things that always have an alternative.It’s another thing if you would like to trade your colicky baby for that sweet non colicky baby..you then do need to listen to your mother who thinks you are crazy and tells you to go to bed.I guess your mommy is right!You do need rest.😓

10)AM I HAPPY?

Go to where your child is at this very moment.Well… Do you have your answer? No matter how much your child drives you up the wall,causes sleep deprivation,makes you look fat,whines,cries,makes you lose your privacy,and what not. YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD. He/she is that inseparable part of you that you can not live without. Yes, you are happy. Your life has a bigger meaning to it,it feels complete now. You have someone you can exclusively claim as your flesh and blood..literally huh.. You must be crazy to not be happy for all of this.Do i see a smile on your face?? aaahhh… i do… you proud mommy.. and here you were asking all these questions,when the ulterior motive of your life has already been satiated.YOU ARE A HAPPY AND A PROUD MOMMY..

I had a blast writing this post,hope you did too reading it.. signing off for now,my bundle of joy calls for his late night snack..”Gosh!! does he really ever intend to give me a good 12 hours of sleep ever?” **crib crib** ( goes with a cribby face and lights up seeing son smiling at mommy from his wooden crib,1001 nights of mommy’s sleep shall be sacrificed for this smile.)

P.S. :And as usual,mommy is happy,kisses baby goodnight after feed and falls asleep to only dream bout baby calling for her even in her dreams… mommy smiling in sleep.